February 1,2018

“The race isn’t given to the swift.” “He that endures until the end the same shall be saved.”

While running a race last year, I noticed octogenarians who were keeping a better pace than I was. Some, even faster than me.Seeing them immediately brought back to mind other past races where mere children were passing me…

Children!! Faster, quicker,sprinting to the finish line. My mind was consumed with how different we all were, but running the same race, each trying to finish the race. How does an 80-yr. old get to the finish line? A pre-teen? Then, there it was, right there in my head; my epiphany, my aha, my lightbulb! As I panned the crowd and examined the sea of people. All of them, different races, ages, weights, heights. All of us running at a different pace, running different styles. Some wogging, a combination of walking and jogging. Some trotting on their toes. Some using the Galloway method, sprint, then walk, sprint, then walk. Still others, pounding the pavement with full impact, but all of us running toward the same finish line. It was right here, where I truly understood endurance.

How is it that all those who make it to the finish line are able to endure every mile? Balance! It’s balance people! There is not one runner who obtains all of their sustenance from carbohydrates only. Furthermore, runners who want to finish their race, are not consuming protein only. These limitations are across the board. I would not be able to finish my race, if I only consumed vitamins, or junk food, or only spinach and kale salads, and the list goes on. To finish the race, the runner must have a balanced diet. Yes, there are vegan runners, vegetarian runners, clean-eating runners, raw-food runners. Whatever their diet, they must incorporate balanced meals and nutrition to reach their best time for each race. Vegans and vegetarians may not consume meats or dairy but they certainly receive the nutrients those foods provide from other sources, ensuring balance. In addition, most runners who are at their best, do not get there by running only when training. Running builds endurance, but so does strength training (i.e., weight lifting and resistance exercises).

Without balance a balance diet, a balanced training regimen, some do not, will not, make it to the finish line. So it is in the realm of the Christian’s faith-walk when there is a lack of balance. How is it, that in the Pentecostal sect of Christian religion we have been taught to consume all things spiritual, Christian, holy, godly and non-secular? How is it that we have been taught this, yet those within the same sect are in full on shock and awe when they see supposedly “good” Christians dropping out of the race? Are they no longer “good” or “saved” because they have dropped out, fallen away? Could it be they are simply fatigued, malnourished and imbalanced Christians?

Can I submit to you that one reason some believers are unable to complete the race is because of their lack of balance! They are dropping out fatigued, tired, and out of breath. They are dropping out frustrated and confused because they do not understand why they are unable to maintain their Christian walk the way it has been presented to them. Unbeknownst to them however, God never intended for his children to live life without balance; to run the race without a balanced diet. While it’s difficult, even sacrilegious for some believers to comprehend, the truth of the matter is that a healthy, well-rounded, balanced, Christian life is in fact possible without sustaining only on all things non-secular. Anything less than a balanced Christian life is well…an unbalanced Christian life! An unbalanced Christian life leads to a believer resenting his own faith-walk. An unbalanced Christian life enslaves the believer to a guilt-ridden life because on their best day, when they are on their best behavior, they are still simply unable to live up to the insanely long list of don’ts set-up by the Christians should only do-live-look-be-go here/not there-committee.

Does God have standards, of course he does! That’s not what’s disputable. What is at question is the man-made boundaries we have placed on the lives of believers, attaching the title of “holiness”, then purporting that strict adherence to said boundaries is a guaranteed avenue to a closer walk with God, more blessings, more anointing, greater favor, higher levels of revelation, a heavenly language, and so on. Can I let you in on a public secret? During my long, churchy, church-girl journey, I have come across many professing believers who run their race by following the man-made rules, adhering to the man-made boundaries, and obeying all of the man-made don’ts. The end result, without going into detail, is not some utopian, Christian life. So, after trying for myself to run that type of race, at this point in my life, I have come to realize, that in order for me to finish my race, in the manner God himself intended for me to finish, I need a balanced diet…a balanced life. Here’s the thing though; what provides balance for me, could be vastly different for you. The pre-teen racer’s diet is going to be different from my own, and my diet will be different from that of the octogenarian. Yet, we are all running the same race, running towards the same finish line. Wanna finish your race with stamina and endurance? Got balance?

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“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” ~ Proverbs 27:17(KJV)

March 1,2018

You are more than well able to do what God commands you to do…

Earlier this year, as I was creating my goals/vision board for the year. There was one particular goal I dreaded on putting on list. After carefully praying, I knew that I had to write this particular goal down. You see, the reason why I was hesitant in listing this goal. This goal I’ve listed for several years now and every time I listed it or thought about it. I get some type of anxiety flare up inside of me. I had tried on completing this goal before and I never seem to succeed. It is my state board exam for licensure. This goal has cost me a lot of money and a lot of sacrifice of time. And to tell you the truth the past few years, I’ve listed it on my goals journal but haven’t really work on it. Mainly, because of past failure and not really having motivation to do it. But, I knew this was a goal that was beyond me.

I knew it was God because not even a week after listing this goal in my journal. Out of nowhere a family member gave me a check to pay for the examination fees. I was amazed and knew God gave me the confirmation that this year was the year.

Several months have passed and I still have not cash the check or even paid for the exam. I was procrastinating and avoiding it. The bottom line was; I was afraid. Yes, when I would think about it or just paying for the exam I felt the uneasiness and tension in my body that I just stop thinking about it. Because of my past failure, it allowed me to stay in this rut or bondage. But it wasn’t until one day God literally sent me an angel when I mean an angel someone that I’ve never talk to before, someone from a different state. We got connected online. The way we got connected was we were both apart of this study group online. She posted that she had past her exam and was giving tips on what she did. We ended up exchanging number and she called me on the phone. The phone conversation that was supposed to be on tips. It was divine appointment. She encouraged, empowered and motivated me to stay the course and don’t give up. So much faith arose in me during the call. At the end, of the conversation she said “Hey text when you set the date for the exam.” I felt a knot in my stomach as she said it. I knew this was something I needed to do. As I hung up, without even thinking I went online and schedule the exam. I felt liberating and free.

After several months, on sitting and procrastinating I kicked fear in the behind. But, I knew it took God several times to let me know to be strong and courageous…

God reminded me of Joshua, Joshua was Moses assistant for the 40 years. Moses had recently died and God approach Joshua to say, you are next in line to lead the children of Israel to the promise land. Joshua new his abilities and God knew his potential. Joshua limited himself to just an assistant but God qualified him to be the next leader to carry out this great task. God trusted Joshua, but Joshua had fear. Joshua only looked at his humanly strength instead of looking at God’s strength in him. Joshua said to himself, I will be in charge of one to two million people and lead them over the Jordan River-no small challenge for starters…huh. What I like about God, He knows our weakness and he responds accordingly. As soon as God recognized Joshua’s fear, He said to him in Joshua 1: 6 “Be strong and courageous, for you are the one who will lead these people to possess all the land I swore to their ancestors I would give them.”

God comes again and repeat Himself, He emphasized certain words because He wanted to empower Joshua. So, in verse 7 it says: “Be strong and VERT courageous. Be careful to obey all the instructions Moses gave you. Do not deviate from them, turning either to the right or to the left. Then you will be successful in everything you do.”

Not only did God reminded Joshua to be strong and courageous this time He said be VERY courageous. He then tells Joshua about the promises He will endure once he obeys.

What I like about God, He loves his children regardless of his weakness because again in verse 9 God stated again…” Have not I commanded you? BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. God was speaking strength and courage into Joshua’s life. Joshua was feeling inadequate because of the task before him. Fear was trying to rob Joshua in fulfilling his potential. After Joshua hear God, he gained the courage and was strengthened by it. Joshua was able to tackle whatever was before him with confidence and strength.

God first began encouraging Joshua in Deuteronomy to “Be strong and courageous and not to be afraid. God knew the task to which He had for Joshua was bigger than what he can handle. God knew that Joshua could not handle it on his own humanly strength. He wanted Joshua to relay on him.

In conclusion, I thank God because He knows me and He knows what lies ahead of me. He also knows you too. God will repeat himself over and over to you. “Do not be afraid. Be strong. Be courageous.” God knows our human weakness and He knows our potential. God will pour His strength upon us to fulfill the God given assignment. My question to you is what has God ask you to do that you have been putting off or what is the assignment He has given to you complete and you have not started. I want to challenge you to “Be strong and courageous…Be strong and very courageous. Do not be frightened or dismayed.” I tell you, fear got me nowhere earlier this year but as soon as I kicked fear in the behind God gave me confidence and strength to conquer the task ahead. When I am strong and courageous even in the midst of my challenges it’s an expression of faith. God knows what I can manage and He wants us to live by faith and not fear because He promises to be with us during those major tasks and assignment. I now have a date set for my licensure exam and am speaking it that I will pass my exam…because God is with me I will conquer this.

“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.” ~ Deuteronomy 31:8

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April 1,2018

Have you ever come to a point in your life where you feel like you were being blocked? Like your life appeared to be on hold, delay, or just “backed-up”. You know that there is more to life for you, you desire more, you can almost see it, taste it, but it feels like it’s just beyond your reach. You can see everyone else around you making moves, starting the business, getting married, having the babies, buying the homes, getting accepted into school, offered the promotions, making the money… and you’re like but wait a minute! What about me?

I grew up hearing…

“When your neighbor is being blessed, praise God, because that means He’s in the neighborhood and you could be next.”

There were times I wondered if He was in the wrong zip code. Well honey, maybe He’s right at your door, but something’s blocking His knock. Ever realized it could be you? But wait, why would I intentionally block a blessing? Why would I block the chance to move forward?

You say you want to move forward and do better, however your thought process and action are saying different and it’s blocking you. Perhaps you have become so negative in your thought Iife, that you can’t honestly see the positivity that surrounds you. You want better, but you keep telling yourself it can’t happen for you because you don’t have what it takes, or you need what so-and- so has, or you don’t have the same money, or the same opportunities, or access to the same type of people.

Your comfort zone is where you are hiding. You’re familiar with what this part of your life looks like. You don’t want to try something new because you’ve never done it before. Or perhaps you’ve never seen it modeled for you before. It may feel too risky, it’s scary, it’s too far out in the unknown. But you know what? No one can move you out of that zone except you. You have to do the work!

I recently watched a video that said, “God will order your steps, but He won’t move your feet.” Goodness if that ain’t the good gospel truth! Even if God was at your door, and decided to push past that blockade you still have to open the door to accept what He has for you. You have to move forward. So how do I move forward? One thought at a time. One decision at a time. One day at a time. Start with your thought process. Did you know there are Psychological studies that have shown that negative thinking actually alters and in some cases damages the networks in your brain? I know you don’t want this. Where do you start?

1. Change your way of thinking- Get literal. Take a sheet of paper. Jot down the first 5-10 or most common negative thoughts that you have. Write down to positives to counter-act that one negative.

2. Set up SMART Goals- SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. You don’t have to overdo it, just start with 1 or 2 goals, your top priority.

3. Find an accountability partner – Someone you can trust, you look up to or admire. Tell them about your challenge, your goal(s) and how they could help you. It could be just a weekly call to check in, it could be receiving encouragement from them, advice on how to move forward on your goal, or someone to keep you in prayer.

4. Increase your prayer life and reading the Bible – You can’t do this on your own, you need the intervention and back up of God. Read scriptures that encourage you to move forward. There may be some deep rooted things that you aren’t aware of that causes the continued blockage. Spending time in prayer and meditation by reading the Bible will help reveal those things to you.

So in 2018 – let’s stop blocking our progress, our dreams, our aspirations. Let’s do the work. Let’s move forward so we can encounter and obtain all that God has promised for our lives.

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May 1,2018

“Know YOUR Worth. Then Add Tax.” ~ unknown

“My worth? Man, I know my worth! I don’t allow people to walk over me, use me, or take advantage of me. I set it straight from the get go.” Well in reality most of us at this age or younger really don’t know our worth. We’re in high school or college and just having fun, making new friends, and enjoying life. At this age, we are or should be preparing ourselves to go out into the REAL WORLD. But being in the real world you must know your worth. Not everyone is really there for you. They’re there due to knowing and believing you will always be there for them and every time they call you answer. But when you’re needing them for something, they are nowhere to be found. That’s a prime example of being taken advantage of and them not knowing your worth as well as you not knowing.

Before you let anyone in, know who you are and your worth. When finding and accepting who you are to know you worth, you have to know who you are in Christ first. Most aren’t looking to be surrendering your life to Christ just yet, but it pays off in the end. I promise. That’s how I found who I was and still finding who I am, as well as knowing my worth. I’m telling you now, it’s not easy but it’s worth it. Especially being young, surrounding yourself with those who may not believe in God like you do can hinder you from who you’re called to be. (That’ll have to be discussed on a later date.)

But all in all, who you are and your worth is found in Christ.

The process can be hard because he can set you apart from things or people you’re attached to. He does it just to get your attention and get you to know and be comfortable with you. Know you, know your worth because this world won’t. Not everyone has that mindset to appreciate you but all you have to know is God appreciates you, which leads you to appreciate yourself and then you’ll attract those who will appreciate you. Don’t settle for who are now. Don’t settle for the negative thoughts you have about yourself because of the way you’ve been treated in the past. Look forward to the future and know God has you, no matter who leaves. When you know your worth, that won’t even matter. I pray you take something away from this and KNOW YOUR WORTH!

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June 16, 2018

Are You the Reflection of the Man God Has For You?

Ladies, are you ready for a relationship? What is your assessment that determines you are truly ready for a man to enter your life? Some women who desire to be in a relationship, and eventually married, tend to ask God to send a man who meets all of the criterion on their checklist. On the other hand, there are some who focus on making only one very specific request known to God. However, when the man enters her life with that one quality, she ends up complaining because she figured out the one quality is not enough to sustain the relationship. Well if you have ever noticed, God’s Word does not return void. Therefore, when praying, being specific is a must especially when you are requesting something in particular.

Personally, I could never figure out why I kept getting men that fit in the same category. As I continued in this pattern, I found myself in my first marriage asking God for his will to be done, although I knew if had become unfixable. Still not learning my lesson though, I moved right along continuing to bump my head. Eventually, I became aware of how I was refusing to ask God for the type of man I desired. Though it took me quite a while, I finally realized I had to start within myself. I had to allow God to work on me first, clean me up, and remove my blinders. Once I reached this point, I began to see the woman I needed to become in order to receive the type of man I desired. I had to be the reflection of this godly man. God is love, trust, compassion, patience, understanding, forgiveness, faithfulness, strength, encouragement, obedience, honor, peace, joy, kindness and the list goes on. Once I was filled up with these characteristics, I was able to pray for my husband and not just for a husband. I prayed for him as if he was already i

n my presence. Remember when we, as children, had that imaginary playmate that nobody could see? Well, I had that imaginary husband that nobody could see, and everything I had become, I prayed for it to be in him. Talk about prayer being answered! On August 20, 2017 my reflection asked me to be his queen. Then, on October 14, 2017 my reflection ask me to be his wife. Finally, the conclusion of the matter will take place on June 16, 2018, when our reflections will become one image, not of ourselves, but of God. I encourage you to let God clean you up and take off the blinders so that you can become the reflection of the godly man He has for you.

1 Cor 13 “Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth; it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.”

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July 13,2018

“Didn’t I conquer this last year?

Tell me what I missed ’cause I fear

That it’s coming back up again

Must be something I ate

Some song, some show, some hate

The devil wants to extend the game, free throws

And when it ends he wants to make the sequel

‘Cause if he has another chance

He feels like he can take

My joy, my peace, my faith”

– Jonathan McReynolds

That song literally speaks my life. Lately, I can say that I’ve been going in cycles. Things I thought I got rid of years ago or conquered have come back up. And I’m just sitting here saying, ” This again? Really? “. Other times, I thought I had really conquered it, but this year, it’s a whole different story. I’m ready to break the cycles and be all God has called me to be. You may be going through the same thing. Whether it be cycles of generational curses, depression, lusting , pornography, toxic relationships, financial, spiritual, or pain, they’re all cycles that can be broken. You can be free of whatever it may be! Over the past few months, I’ve learned a few ways to overcome cycles. It won’t happen overnight, nothing ever does. What I will say is that it helps and will eventually lead you into freedom.

1. Pray

Praying helps with literally anything! Prayer is communication with God. It doesn’t have to be in a certain form or fashion. He just desires you to come and communicate with Him. Whatever cycle you’re facing, go to God and talk to Him about it. Also, be willing to listen to what He has to tell you. It could very well be the answer to what you need. So build your prayer life up. Pray about that cycle that has you in bondage every single day and never stop!

2. Seek God

Seeking God is so much more than prayer. You have to get into His Word and apply it to your life. Once you began seeking God, your mindset will change, heart will be in the right place, and you’ll start to become more of who He has called you to be. When seeking God about your cycle, you have to be willing to let go of it. It doesn’t make sense to pray and seek God about it if you’re not ready to let it go. Be real with yourself and God.

3. Change Environments

Your surroundings are everything! From the people you hang around to the places you go, all isn’t good for you, especially if it triggers your “cycle”. It may become difficult to let go of the environment you’re used to. If you’re trying to elevate and do right and they’re not, it’s time to let go. You don’t need anything or anyone getting in the way of your deliverance and purpose. So from now on, know that your environments and the people you’re around are extremely important. Changing your environments can lead you to the places and people you need in your life that may help break the cycles.

Cycles are crucial. The devil knows them and will always try to make you stay in it. Like stated before in a previous blog, he likes to keep you down so you won’t grow with God and do the purpose He has for your life. Growth is needed. Cycles need to be broken. Whatever it may be holding you back, pray, seek God, and change environments so that you can be FREE!

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Aug.15,2018

Have you ever asked God those two words? I’ve asked him those two words frequently and still do. Why me? Perhaps, you feel inadequate or just aren’t sure where you fit into life. Maybe you’ve done everything under the sun and think God could possibly not use me with all my “baggage”. Or you’re not sure about this whole God thing. Well ma’am, here’s why you. YOU MATTER A LOT! Not only are you someone’s mother, daughter, sister, wife or friend but you are a part of God’s master plan.

Jeremiah 1:5 states, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…” God is not surprised by your thoughts, actions or feelings. In fact, he going to use all of it, the bad and the good, for his glory (Romans 8:28). For example, Moses’ birth mother hid him in the Nile to save his life against the decrees of Pharaoh. He was later found by Pharaoh’s daughter and was raised up as an Egyptian prince. Moses’ fled after he killed an Egyptian because he had witnessed the afflictions of fellow Israelites. BUT like the good father he is, God still had a plan in mind for Moses. Moses lead the Israelite’s out of Egypt and into the promise land that he swore to them. God was with Moses from the very beginning and never left his side. He used his shortcomings to still bring forth his ultimate glory. Even during the moments Moses lacked faith or felt inadequate because of his speech, he chose Moses for that very assignment.

See sis, your assignment/purpose is bigger than you. Not only will it refine the person you are but it will propel your family lineage, it will deliver those in captivity and give you things unimaginable. Do not be discouraged in this hour, if you failed, get back up. When you don’t feel worthy, wash yourself in God’s word. When life tells you, it’ll never happen, put your foot to the gas petal of “YES IT WILL”. God doesn’t use perfect people; this is evident in many stories in the bible. No matter the level of walk you are on with God or just starting out, keep going. This generation needs you, I need you and your family needs you. Writer-

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Sep.4,2018

The spirit of the Lord came to me one night and it took my breath away. He told me it was time to prepare for battles that satan would be throwing my way.He told me to hold on and don’t get discouraged, though it may seem I’ve crossed enemy lines. He said be steadfast and be of good faith, for this battle was his, and not mine.

He showed me a vision of a valley below and I noticed that many were dead, Then he gave to me a protection of armor..and then with his mighty voice said…”Those that are dead fought against satan, but they never called my name. They fought to get back what satan had stolen, but the battle they fought was in vain.

The valley you see is the shadow of death and many that have walked through have died. Fear not for I give you my armor of protection with my rod and my staff at your side.

For the days you feel to tired to stand I’ve placed beneath you ‘The Rock’. I have built you a shelter to cover your head and behind you, I’ve placed my flock. I am the shield that will go before you to protect you from what lies ahead. To spare your blood, because all that was needed, Jesus has already shed.

You will have peace as you walk through the valley, so fear not and be not removed. And while you are resting I will fight your battle, so your strength shall stay renewed. You will run and not faint, walk and not be tired, for the yolk that I give you is light.

Then I will lead you to waters that are still…. but satan will continue to fight.

Be not afraid for I will mount you up with the wings of a victorious bird. Just speak the greatest weapon I’ve given to you; the two edge sword I call my Word. Then the wrath of hell shall flee from you and will restore your soul. Declaring the victory over satan’s army, and return to you ALL that he stole.”

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Oct.5,2018

Blessed Harvest Decree 

Blessed are you, dear vessel of our God;

you are blessed when you come and when you go.

Blessed are you in this season of  harvest; far beyond

any measure you can ever know. Your fields are bountiful,

for you soil is rich;

God is allowing your territory to grow.

Your harvest is blessed

and your season is now;

to reap the “Fuits of the Spirit” that you’ve shown.

The storehouse will never be empty;

for your cup shall forever overflow; in all the seasons of your Blessed Harvests.

God shall anoint every seed that you sow.

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Nov. 20,2018

Written by: Zenovdia Love

My life started in a small town called Russellville, Kentucky. Growing up from a little girl to a young lady, and even up until the present, I have learned a lot about life. As far back as I can remember, I have always desired to have the fairytale life we all used to witness on the television. My all-time favorite TV relationship was on the soap opera, “Days of our Lives”. Hope and Bo were the “It” thing and an idea of what I wanted.

After graduating from High School, I really wanted to go into the United States Military and continue my education. I went through the entire process, but while doing so I asked God if this was something He wanted me to do? And if not to please bless me with a man that’s already in the military, that travels and loves to do the same things I enjoy in life. God answered my request. At the tender age of 20 years old, after two years or so of dating and courtship, I became a married woman.

Divorced, Now What?

He and I were married for 17 years and then walked through a divorce. This is one thing I never envisioned for my life at all and found myself asking God, “What now?” In that moment I became closer to God even more and realized I had to rely on Him for everything. I had never lived out on my own at this point, not to mention, in a big city, and without any family. “What am I going to do?”, was the question at the forefront of my mind.

I decided to walk through this process in silence while hoping and believing he and I would eventually reconcile, but it never happened. God allowed me to move from the city in Florida where we lived to another one, and I recall telling God I can’t do this. Leading up to the separation and divorce I had to focus on finding me and although it was difficult and painful God graced me to start moving forward. Oftentimes we stay stuck, confused, and controlled by our circumstances until we decide to stare fear and rejection back in their faces and begin to deal with them.

It Takes Two to Win

During my journey, I realized that I wasn’t taught correctly how to be a wife. I was brought up in the church; stayed in the church all the time. We were a part of the C.O.G.I.C. church (Church of God in Christ). I carried a lot of the inaccurate teaching into my relationship. Don’t get me wrong, foundational principles are key, and we were taught those as well.  However, God desires that we prosper and be in health in all aspects of our lives. I really needed more.

I “almost” fell into victim mode during my process until real closure took place. This process taught me humility and how to be more sensitive to the needs of others. I was separated for two years before my divorce and really struggled with the idea of being divorced and how much God hates divorce. And yes, this is true. Divorce is like experiencing a death, according to Malachi 2:16. However, there are some things God will allow it for, one being, Infidelity. It takes two to win. Being married those 17 years were not all bad because I had great in-laws and to this day have nieces and nephews who I still care about and vice versa.

Life as a single and attractive young woman has been challenging. I wondered to myself “How can I go from married to single?” Drawing closer to God is key, even though, your flesh will talk to you and distractions will come just keep drawing closer to God. Yes, you may fall short, but don’t stay there. In my ten years of being single, many successes and blessings have and continue to come my way. God’s favor has surrounded me as a shield and carries me through repeatedly.

Moving Forward and Thriving

My personal ministry, Women of Warfare Wins Now, or better known as WOWW NOW was developed through my journey of various struggles. I experienced things like rejection, abandonment, insecurity, depression, and fear, just to name a few. Someone out there may be experiencing some of these same things, but I want you to know you are an OVERCOMER through Jesus Christ!

One thing the Lord allowed me to tap into while going through my process is Fitness! I am an advocate for movement in all areas of our lives, so exercising, and my love for dancing became very therapeutic for me. It was also a goal of mine to become a Certified Life Coach, which I did accomplish. So I meshed together my love for fitness and movement with my Life Coaching Skills and out of that “BAM”-Believe and Move, a motivational platform birthed as an extension of WOWW NOW. I am a certified “BAM Coach”, this came to me after winning over my obstacles, and I realized without the small successes I couldn’t believe and move.

Over the last two years, I have been actively pursuing entrepreneurship and have been successful. I am also a full-time student, enrolled at Ohio Christian University (OCU); maintaining a GPA of 3.7. I made the Dean’s List my first year. Starting school at age 45 years old was very frightful because of finances, however, I believe God that my education will be paid in full before I graduate. This had been one of my lifetime goals and I’m determined. I currently have other projects in the pipeline for 2018. I am persevering above disappointment.

“Will I ever love again?” Absolutely! I tell young ladies and people I mentor to never settle. People may tell you to relax your standards because they are too high, but don’t worry about that. Never settle. Do you to the fullest while you wait. Become and be what Daddy God desires for your life. Be vigilant and never become bitter because of the other person or your previous choices. Live your life with balance according to Ephesians 3:20, and give back by paying it forward.

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